Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Day 8: Upside Down

A blog post I read today turned my thinking upside down. 

Please read it here.

It is about emotional attachment in adoptive parenting and how we feel pressure to sacrifice all on the alter of "secure attachment" in our children.

Sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves as mothers.  Although my kids are attached pretty well (or on their way), I worry a lot about how much I can "reverse," for lack of a better word, the ill-effects of their institutional care as babies. Their battle scars are evident.

But all I can do is what I know to do now.  I am trying my best and perhaps that is good enough.  I love them, I take care of their needs, I encourage them, and teach them. Perhaps I am not meant to do more.  Perhaps I cannot change their minds and their hearts. Perhaps that is God's work and not my own.  

Surrender.  The older I get the more I see life is not about striving but about surrender. Soli deo gloria.

1 comment:

  1. I think you are doing REALLY, REALLY WELL, Samantha. Your children seem so happy and at ease and the fact that they show their feelings is so good. The love in your house is tangible - leave it all to God, who loves you unconditionally and is to overjoyed with what you are doing.
    Lots of love to you all. x x x x x x x x for ever. Margaret