Elijah is really creative and has strong opinions about what works best. Again, he is such a Niforatos.
He gets along especially well with Ellie and Peter.
Ellie had fun too. She is glad that she is not the only one who thinks swinging is awesome.
Yesterday, I attempted getting back into out school routine. This has been something I have worried a bit about since we found out Elijah was coming home. How will this work? Well, I know this is not a permanent solution, but I just let Elijah to continue to play on the iPad with headphones. My hope is that eventually he will move to some basic phonics and math games. (The only way this will work is if I delete all the more 'fun' apps from the iPad!)
My biggest dilemma with Elijah right now is how to get him off of electronics. Of course, a little is okay, but he wants an iPad, computer, or TV show all day long. It is a coping mechanism right now, and maybe a habit from his previous home (?), so it has its place, but our other kids do not quite get why he gets to do it all day long and they don't. We have a no- screen rule from 8-4 every school day.
My plan is to phase it out slowly, as he learns more English and feels more comfortable with us.
I have read and been to lectures about bonding and parenting kids with traumatic pasts, and one thing that stuck in my mind is that you need to build up a foundation of "yesses" before introducing all the "no's" It was explained that we do not say no to little babies, but consistently and lovingly meet their needs, and that builds our parent-child bond. So I don't want to say "no" to Elijah all day long about the iPad and sitting at the table, etc. I am trying to just put temptations out of sight (I put my laptop and iPads away a lot) and focus on having fun and meeting his needs, with food and hugs and comforting him when he gets hurt.
Elijah is a little less comfortable with John because John has been at work a lot, and, of course, I had a 2 week jump on getting to know him But, they are on their way. Here, John is trying to bond over a matching game on, yes, the iPad.